Surprise Him with a Date Night Care Package

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This Fall I will have been married to my husband for 9 very long years. I would never tell you it's been easy, because it hasn't. In fact, marriage and relationships are extremely difficult. Because marriage usually goes hand in hand with a family and kids, it's easy to forget to take the time to make each other feel special. Today I am sharing ideas on how to change that, how to remind your husband how special he is, with Man Care Package. (Don't worry you'll benefit from this too.)

After being married for almost 9 years and together for 14, I have finally realized a very important part of making my marriage a success. I have to make him feel special too. I totally admit to taking the role of the girl and just waiting to be spoiled and given gifts. But what about him? I might buy him a little something for our anniversary, but when do I ever give him a gift just because? That's why I thought of a Date Night Care Package with him in mind. 

Everything you see above in the care package was picked up at Walmart. Including the

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Pleasure Gel. While shopping, I tried to think of a few things my husband wants and needs. I picked up some new earbuds and phone accessories because I know he listens to music all day at work and could always use a new pair. I also picked up a few of his favorite snacks because I know him and included a gift card to one of our favorite restaurants with a note asking for a date night. I know the gift card will make him happy because that means we get to go to dinner just the two of us. The breath mints and the

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Pleasure Gel are for the end of date night, if you know what I mean, wink wink.

Marriage is hard. It's not easy when everyday things get in your way of spending that valuable alone time together. Honestly, just knowing that we have

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Pleasure Gel is like a reminder that intimacy and closeness is important. The picture above is of us on our anniversary 4 years ago. It's one of our only favorite pictures of us that we have and it hangs on our wall as a reminder of how much we mean to each other. 

The other frame is a typograph of lyrics to one of our favorite songs from one of our favorite bands. I tracked down this artist on Instagram and begged her to send me the file to print as a gift for my husband. These are the types of little things that keep our relationship strong. 

So what would you put in a care package for your husband? A few of his favorite things? Some necessities? I'd love to hear your ideas, let me know in the comment section below.

"You are not a fun person"- My Husband

So, this is not my most pleasant post, but I'm gonna try and keep it as real as possible with you from now on. Here it goes... Last night, my husband and I were not arguing, but "communicating" when he blurted out, "You are not a fun person." He wasn't trying to mean. We were discussing how much we've changed over the years and since I always ask him to be honest with me, he was. 

To be honest, hearing those words come out of my husbands mouth hit me like a slap to the face, and I cried. But he is right. The sad truth is I am no longer a fun person. Over the course of our marriage we have gone through a lot of ups and downs. Because I am a stay at home mom, I feel like I always have to be "on." I don't want my girls to see me cry or weak, but it is definitely backfiring. Earlier today my 5 year old asked me, "Why aren't you happy like in that picture?" She pointed to a picture of me holding my youngest daughter as a newborn. And although it was a posed picture, it is noticeable to even a 5 year old that mommy is not happy.

We have each changed so much in the last 12 years that we have known each other. Of course, I was 17 when we met so I hope I have changed some, but unfortunately, it seems as though I haven't changed for the better. When I met my husband he was a quiet, shy 18 year old and I was 17 years old and very confident in myself. I loved to laugh and be sarcastic. The person that I have turned into is the complete opposite. I have lost my confidence. I have lost the fun side of me and I don't know why. 
 The more my husband and I talked, he asked me why do I think I am not happy. I told him I really have no idea. What does he do?  He throws Socrates in my face. Does your husband quote ancient philosophers to you? Is this something new to look forward to in my third decade of life? 

Obviously, I have a lot of stuff to work on besides building my blog. Please readers, be patient with me while I figure out the key to my happiness. 

7 very long years...

It has been 7 looooooooooong years since my husband and I were married. When I say long, I mean long! We dated for 5 years before that and I like to call those the "fun years." Nothing about our relationship has been easy. We met when I was 17 years old, randomly in a chat room, when I was bored one night while on winter break from my Senior year. Completely random! After an impassioned first year full of a meddling family members and a lot of fighting, we made it to the fun careless years, and before we knew it, those years were over and done with in a big fat blur!
I dug though some old scrapbook and found some pretty happy pictures of us during the "fun years."
I have heard that the 7th year is the hardest in a marriage, and so far, the 2nd, 3rd, 5th and 6th were pretty bad, so let's hope the 7th is better! Haha! I'm only kidding.. sort of. Honestly, I can write a book about all the hard times we went through, but I don't like to dwell. I like to move forward and count my blessings. He's my husband and I love him. Mark, here's to 7 more! (wink, wink)