I said it and I meant it, Ask Me Anything

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Recently I shared something very personal with all of you, my readers. Sharing my son’s birth story was not easy for me to do. But it was important to me because when I first started blogging my intention was to share my story. As I was letting the words flow along with the memories of that night and as I typed through tears in my eyes and anxiety in my chest, it was therapeutic for me. I also really wanted his story, my story, our story, to be out there in case anyone needed to hear that they were not alone.

So, as we near 2018, blogging has become so much more than just writing and adding in a couple of photos. It is multi-faceted, it is complex and it is competitive. Throw in the fact that I am getting older and the current crazy stupid political atmosphere, I feel like I am just trying to keep my head above the waters. In fact, I am underwater and using a straw to breathe. That’s how I feel about blogging right now.

As much as I love love love what I do, I need to figure out who I am in this world. I’m not just a mom and a wife, but for these past 10 years, that’s all I have been, “MOM!” and “Hey babe! Have you seen my shorts?” It’s so weird to me to even hear my actual name being called. It’s like I’m just now beginning to realize, wait a minute, I am a woman too. I have gone these past 10 years not knowing what kind of makeup looks good on me, not wearing jewelry because I didn’t want the babies to pull on it, not figuring out my own personal style of clothes that I like, because well, all the fashion budget goes towards my two little girls. I didn’t even know any new music because I would just let my husband pick the music we listened to. Well.. I am 33 years old and I am ready to discover who I am.

Recently, in an effort to both get to know myself while being more transparent with my followers,  I posed the question, ASK ME ANYTHING, on InstaStories and Snapchat. If you’re not following me on either platform, you’re missing out, because this is where I document my day to day stuff and confessions of how I’m really feeling. I asked you to go ahead and ask me anything and promised to answer in both forms, here on my blog and on InstaStories. So.. without further ado.. Here are the answers to ASK ME ANYTHING. (Insert monkey covering his eyes emoji here)

The questions that people asked pretty much ran the gamut. It was a pretty interesting social experiment actually and because of it, I was able to weed out the creeps, because No, I’m sorry I will not be sharing my bra size with all of you. Sorry to disappoint.

  • How did you get into what your career is now?

Blogging took a really wild turn for me. It began, 5 years ago, as an outlet for this stay at home mama of two girls (18 months apart) who loved to write and create. And then Pinterest happened and I started getting traffic from all the party stuff I used to spend hours creating and then one day someone told me I could make money doing this. And just like that, I became a Work from Home Mama, a blogger, I became, KindaSillyMommy.

  • What do you feel are the pros/cons to working from home?

The pros of working from home is that I don’t have to deal with people face to face if I don’t want to. I am an introverted extrovert. Does that make sense? I can talk for days to my phone, to all of you on InstaStory, but when it comes to being face to face with people I am terribly self-conscious and fidget a lot and am horrible at making eye contact, because to be perfectly honest, I don’t like looking at me, so why would you? However, I am one of those people that can put that discomfort behind me and easily speak in front of crowds. Weird. I know.

The cons of working from home is that I am incredibly lonely and I get distracted very easily. It’s so easy to write down tasks and start in on them and then get sidetracked by an email, which leads to a website, which then leads to making another cup of coffee, folding my laundry, making lunch, washing dishes, starting dinner and so on..

  • Your love for Los Angeles is fairly obvious. Would you ever live anywhere else?

I do love my city of Los Angeles. There is just so much diversity and culture and energy. If I had to leave Los Angeles, like gun to my head type of situation, I would head North. It would be a foolish move because I don’t even own a jacket or more than one pair of closed toe shoes. But! I love the smell of trees and this may be because I don’t get many rainy days, but I would love to have more cloudy gray days. So, Washington and Oregon look pretty dreamy to me.

  • If you were invisible for one day, what would you do?

I have no idea. I can’t even come up with a clever lie or funny story. Would I want to sneak into a Men’s locker room or something creepy like that? No. Boys smell. Would I look over my husband’s shoulder to see what he’s looking at on his phone? Nope. I don’t care. I wouldn’t even sneak up on my kids to overhear their convos, because as it is, I have Mom’s Super Hearing and I already hear more than I actually care to.  Maybe I would sneak in to see Hamilton without having to pay an astronomical amount of money for a ticket. 

  • Zombie Apocalypse: Target or Costco? Where would you live?

When I read this question to my husband he was like, “Haha. Hands down, Costco. Duh!” And I’m over here like… psht, this is why I wouldn’t last very long living along the undead. Target has my heart! Target is like heaven on earth. Not only can I wander for hours, but I can get delicious popcorn and a Starbucks coffee at the same time. So, even if Zombies are banging on the doors, I am going to enjoy my cafecito and popcorn for as long as possible.

  • What is your favorite Ice Cream?

I like fruity ice creams or sorbets. I like rainbow sherbert or pineapple. I mean, I wouldn’t turn down any ice cream really, but I prefer fruity and fresh over creamy or chocolate.

  • Crunchy or Creamy Peanut Butter?

I am not a big peanut butter fan. One time I created a recipe for peanut butter and I tasted so much of it, even the smell of it bothers me now. Occasionally I will have a PB & J and I love to make peanut butter cookies, but that’s just because they’re easy. Oh! But, I do love Honey Almond Butter.

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  • How has living in Los Angeles shaped who you are? And who you are as a Mother?

I loved this question. Los Angeles is all I have ever known, it is a part of who I am. I was born, raised and still live in the heart of North East Los Angeles. Living in East LA has given me culture and pride and alot of life lessons. I’m glad that my girls are growing up in a very different world than when my parents grew up here, and when I grew up here. Luckily for me, I am able to share with them the knowledge that I gained while growing up here and the culture that continues to grow around them.  

  • What is your favorite type of music to listen to?

I listen to everything. EVERYTHING. Except country. I love to sing along really loud. I love acoustic guitar. I love to chair dance, I am an excellent chair dancer. To give you an idea of the range of music here’s a few of my favorites: Anberlin, The Eagles, Brenton Wood, Jennifer Lopez, Biggie, Linkin Park, Jay Z, Jimmy Eat World, The Wombats, The Whispers, Florence and the Machine, The Weeknd, Mumford and Sons, Journey, P!nk, Marvin Gaye, Mariah Carey, No Doubt. Just to name a few... 

  • What’s something we’d be surprised to learn about you?

I hate shoes. Living in Southern California has allowed me to wear flip-flops most every single day of every single year since my freshman year of college. My feet are pretty messed up because of it and I’m trying to wear shoes more often now. I have to say, I am starting to get the appeal. I feel like I just discovered this amazing invention, called shoes.

  • What’s your favorite mixed drink?

I never went through that phase in my 20’s where I went bar hopping or experimented. I still don’t drink very often, so when I do, it’s whatever beer and tequila my husband picks up and we share. However, I do love love love a strong rum drink. A good mai-tai or the way my husband makes it, with Pineapple vodka, coconut vodka, dark spiced rum, mango orange juice and grenadine- on ice and with a really big straw.

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  • If you could eat one thing for a whole month, what would you eat?}

It would have to be fruit. A fruit bowl with pineapple, oranges, watermelon, mango and cantaloupe- con sal, y limon, y un poco de tajin.

Oh! and this meal right here from The Habit. Those tempura green beans get me every single time. Yum!  

 i've been dying my hair since I was 12, so the only photos that show my natural hair color are baby pictures. 

i've been dying my hair since I was 12, so the only photos that show my natural hair color are baby pictures. 

  • Are you a natural blonde?

I am a blonde… everywhere except my head. I mean, my body hair is blonde, but my natural hair color is a pretty light, golden brown.

  • What’s your weirdest daily habit?

I guess I would have to say my weirdest habit would have to be the fact that I wake up 2 hours earlier than my girls so I can put myself together. There hasn’t been one day in over a year where I didn’t put makeup on my face or curl my hair. It’s more about enjoying some “me time” before having to answer to “Mom.” I also enjoy my coffee and watch the morning news or listen to music.

Those were the best of the best when it came to the questions I received. It was a pretty fun social experiment and I appreciate all of you who asked something with the intention of getting to know me, like the real me. Keep following along here or on Instagram where I open up and talk on a pretty regular basis. 

Lastly, if there is something else you'd like to know about me. Feel free to ask away in the comment section below and maybe I'll do my best to answer back or maybe even put together a part 2 of this Ask Me Anything. We'll see.